Emotional intimacy and dating
I have one to my car door, the door to my home and even the door to my jewelry box. There is one particular key to open the Intimacy Door in your relationships: it's called the Key of Acceptance.
Because intimacy means that we allow another person to "see into" us and they allow us to "see into" them, the Key of Acceptance must be used.
After all, no one wants to allow someone to "see into" their heart who is controlling, judgmental, critical, sarcastic, unforgiving, abusive, selfish or just plain nasty.
So, if you want others to open their heart to you, you've got to give them a safe place to do so. Because the truth is that while most of us may act like we're not afraid of anything, in the deepest part of ourselves, our hearts are very tender, fragile and generally fearful of relational pain.
Watch what you say because the emotional safety someone feels in a relationship which feeds intimacy can be destroyed in minutes through poorly selected words.
These principles can help you in your relationship with your boyfriend, girlfriend and even just your friend-friend., Erwin Raphael Mc Manus writes eloquently about intimacy and love. Sure, romance and infatuation may initially require little effort, but to experience deep long-lasting, intimate love requires a passionate pursuit, just like Paul said."We are most alive when we find it, most devastated when we lose it, most empty when we give up on it, most inhuman when we betray it, and most passionate when we pursue it." Most passionate when we pursue it? This passionate pursuit sounds vague and for that reason it seems impossible. Most of us have never been taught about developing emotional intimacy with another human.In fact, a certain amount of independent thinking that leads to disagreements is healthy and normal.(If disagreements are not happening, it generally means that communication is lacking because someone isn't being honest.) In light of this truth, developing intimacy means that we have learned the art of disagreeing well while still sending the message: I love you even if we disagree.